The driven ones
- The inner critic that never softens
- The achiever that cannot stop proving
- The perfectionist that redoes everything
- The planner that rehearses every outcome
All servicesParts Work Approach
IFS Therapy in Singapore
Part of you wants to rest; part of you will not allow it. Part of you longs to be close; part of you keeps everyone at a distance. Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy takes that inner tug-of-war seriously, and helps the parts of you that have been fighting finally work together.
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Understanding IFS
Internal Family Systems, developed by psychotherapist Richard Schwartz, starts from something you already know from the inside: you are not one uniform voice. There is a part of you that drives you to achieve, a part that criticises you before anyone else can, a part that goes quiet in conflict. In IFS, these are not flaws or symptoms. They are parts, and every one of them took on its job for a reason.
Many of the people I work with grew up learning to be responsible, to keep the peace, to make the family proud. The parts that carried those duties worked hard for decades, and they are tired. IFS does not try to silence or discipline them. It helps you meet each part with curiosity, understand what it has been protecting you from, and lead your inner world from the calm, steady core that IFS calls Self. There are no bad parts, only parts stuck in old jobs.
Sound Familiar?
Parts You Might Recognise
Every part has a role it took on to protect you. These are some of the ones that show up most often in my room.
The protective ones
- The people-pleaser that cannot say no
- The peacekeeper that swallows anger
- The wall that keeps people at a distance
- The numbness that arrives when it is too much
The ones they protect
- The part that fears being a disappointment
- The part that never felt chosen
- The part still waiting to be comforted
- The part that believes rest must be earned
No part of you is the enemy. Some parts are just exhausted.
The Approach
How IFS Works
Not fixing, not fighting. IFS is a slow turning towards the parts of you that have been working the hardest.
Meet the protectors
We start with the parts that run your daily life: the critic, the pleaser, the overworker. Instead of trying to switch them off, we learn what each one is afraid would happen if it stopped.
Lead from Self
Underneath the noise, IFS trusts that there is a core in you that is calm, curious, and compassionate. As parts learn to trust that Self, they no longer have to run the show alone.
Unburden the young ones
When it is safe enough, we reach the tender parts the protectors have been guarding, often young, and help them finally set down what they have carried. That is when the protectors can soften for good.
What an IFS Session Actually Feels Like
It feels like a conversation with more curiosity in it. When something flares in the session, a wave of guilt, a familiar self-criticism, we might slow down and turn towards it together: how long has this part been doing this job, and what is it afraid would happen if it rested? People are often moved by what they find. The critic turns out to be terrified of your failure. The pleaser learned young that love had conditions. Nothing about you stops making sense once the parts are heard.
My Training in IFS
I am IFS Level 1 trained and continuing towards IFS certification. Parts work is one of the two core lenses of my practice, alongside somatic, body-based work, because parts do not only speak in words; they speak through the body too. IFS also runs through my work with trauma, anxiety, and burnout, where the same hardworking protectors so often sit at the centre of the struggle.
Fees
Sessions and Pricing
Start with a free discovery call. No pressure, just a conversation about whether we are a good fit.
Discovery Call20 minutesStart hereFree
Standard Session60 minutes$160
Extended Session90 minutes$220
Subsidised rates are available for those facing financial difficulty. Cost should not be a barrier to getting support.
Common Questions
Questions About IFS Therapy
What is IFS therapy?
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a psychotherapy approach developed by Richard Schwartz. It starts from a simple observation: the mind is naturally made up of parts, like an inner critic, a people-pleaser, or a part that shuts down. IFS helps you get to know these parts, understand the jobs they took on, and lead them from a calmer, steadier core that IFS calls Self.
Does having parts mean something is wrong with me?
No. Everyone has parts; it is how minds work. Saying one part of me wants to leave this job and another part is terrified to is not a symptom, it is ordinary inner life. IFS simply takes that language seriously and works with it. This is different from dissociative identity disorder, which is a distinct clinical condition.
Is IFS evidence-based?
IFS has a growing research base, with studies supporting its use for trauma, depression, and anxiety, and it was recognised as an evidence-based practice in the United States national registry in 2015. The IFS Institute maintains a public research page listing the studies to date. I integrate IFS within trauma-informed psychotherapy rather than using it as a rigid protocol.
What is your IFS training?
I am IFS Level 1 trained, and I am continuing towards IFS certification. Parts work is one of the core lenses of my practice, alongside somatic, body-based approaches.
What does an IFS session look like?
It looks like a conversation, with more curiosity than analysis. When a strong reaction shows up, we might pause and get to know the part behind it: how long it has been working, what it is afraid would happen if it stopped. People are often surprised by how much sense their most frustrating patterns make once the part behind them is finally heard.
Can sessions be in Mandarin?
Yes. Sessions are available in English and Mandarin, online or in person in Singapore.
Keep Reading
From the Blog: Your Parts, Unpacked
Plain-language pieces on inner conflict, the critic, and the parts behind everyday struggles.
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